Unless you have been living under a rock lately, you saw the above cover of Time Magazine around Mother’s Day. I don’t know how you all felt about it, but I was just shocked at the photograph. I am not dumb…I realize that many moms breastfeed for 2-3 years…but I couldn’t help but be taken back by this cover. It was just too much….the kid looks like he’s a first-grader! Seriously, if a kid can say “Hey mom, can you please whip your tit out,” he/she MIGHT be too big to be breastfed. Just a thought.
My youngest older sister has a two year old girl (named ‘S’), and she is still breast-feeding. It’s bothered me for a while, although it’s really none of my business and I really shouldn’t care. ‘S’ eats whatever she wants during the day, including regular milk/chocolate milk/juice/tea/etc, but when it’s time for bed, she has to have my sister lay in bed with her with her breast out. To me, it’s obvious that it’s a comfort/security thing for S. Maybe even for my sister, who is a single mom and her kid is her life. Either way, it just doesn’t seem normal to me. When I ask my sister about when she plans on stopping, she just says “People in Europe breast feed for 4-5 years (I don’t even think this it true lol) and that ‘S’ will let her know when she wants to stop.
I guess I just don’t get it! I plan on breastfeeding if I can, but I can’t imagine wanting to do it for more than a few months. Maybe even 6-8 months, who knows…but 2+ years? If it’s just for the nutrients, why not just pump and put it in a sippy cup? Otherwise, what is it all about?
I have opinions on these things, but I know they could change when I actually am blessed with my own child. For now, here are a few things I plan on doing/not doing (for record…and let’s see if they change):
1. I would love to breastfeed. I have no idea how long I’ll do it if I can, but my guess is 3-6 months?
2. I do not want to sleep with my child (my youngest niece…2..has never slept in her crib)! I plan on having a baby in my room in a sleeper or something for maybe a month or two, but after that I want him/her in his/her own room.
3. I’m ok with pacifiers…but I’d like to be done with them by 2yrs old to ensure it doesn’t affect development/teeth
4. I don’t want to spank, if it can be avoided. If NOTHING ELSE works then I’ll consider it, but hopefully not
I really wanted to list 5, but my brain isn’t working. =)