4 Months?!? How did that happen?

As I see my little tit-sucker napping in the baby monitor, I’m in awe.  How is it that she’s already 4 months old?  How is it possible that a third of a year has passed us by since she joined us?  Where is the time going?  I have days where I think 6pm (when hubby gets home) will never get here….and then I have weeks that fly by in the blink of an eye.  It’s overwhelming if I think too much about it…I hate the thought of Fin growing up too fast!

We have had a very eventful last month or so.   A few things:

  • We took a trip to Eastern TX/Dallas for over a week (with the baby, of course).  Traveling with a baby is tough!  First of all, we drive any long distances (more than 3 hours) at night so that Finley will sleep.  This works well, except that we are tired and end up unpacking into hotels in the middle of the night.  Fun.  Secondly, having a baby in a hotel room for any amount of time really isn’t that fun.  You have to be quiet after bedtime…you rush to quiet her any time she fusses….you know there are nasty germs everywhere…I could go on and on.  Luckily, Finley did great and slept well and behaved herself while we were there.  She was a little needy…and gassy (probably from me having to eat out every meal)..but she did better than we expected for sure.  When we got home, though, she was awful!  It took a full 3 days to get her back on track with her sleeping/napping/etc….it was rough. Makes me want to keep her home!
  • I had my first Mother’s Day!  Chris totally surprised me and bought me a beautiful garnet (Fin’s birthstone) necklace for Mother’s Day.  He’s really not much into buying jewelry (at all), so it was a big surprise.  I love it!
  • We put our house up on the market…and we have had a bazillion showings so far (but no offers…boooo).  I’m so happy to have it listed, but MAN it’s tough working from home with a baby and two dogs and having to clean up and clear out any time a showing gets scheduled (which lately is every day).  It’s exhausting.  Hopefully this baby will sell fast!

That’s the main stuff.  In fact, it’s all I can think of right now. I need to start writing down post-its when I think of stuff I want to blog, because by the time I actually have any time to do it I’m rushed and just trying to remember whatever I can!

Before I get to the monthly update on Fin, just wanted to put it out there for you all to please send me your good vibes/prayers/energy/whatever.  I’m completely overwhelmed with at the moment and don’t really see a light at the end of the tunnel.  Working from home with a baby is really hard, and the help I thought I’d have just hasn’t been around.  And that’s ok, but I need to move on to Plan B because between work, Finley, keeping the house up for showings and having to come and go every day I don’t have anything left to give.  I’m exhausted and trying to hold on here, people!  I think one answer is to find someone who can come over a couple of days a week and watch Finely for me while I work.  I’ve registered on Care.Com to try to find someone, but if you know of anyone (or are someone) who may be interested, please let me know!  I’d even take her to someone else’s house if needed, I just don’t want her in a daycare at this time (not that there is anything wrong with that, I’m just not ready for that yet).  So….let me know if you know anyone.  And pray this house sells quickly, that would help too.

And now..without further adui….the 4 month update:


Fin 4 month close-up

What are your stats and what does the doctor say?

At your 4 month appointment you weighed 13lbs and 14 oz (56th percentile) and were 25 3/4 inches long (94th percentile).  I’m still in shock that you are lean and mean and not a fat baby!  I mean come on, you started off over 9 lbs, so I just assumed you would continue to fatten up!  I was wrong, though, and it appears for now that you take after your daddy (a good thing when it comes to body type for sure).  Doctor said you are perfect.

What are you eating?

You are still a breastfed baby, and you have gotten to be quite the efficient feeder.  You use to feed for 15-20 minutes, and now you are done in 7-14 on average.  You get in and out quickly most of the time, although at night you prefer to be lazy and take your time (which I don’t mind).  You recently tried some cereal for the first time, but you weren’t too impressed.  That’s ok with me- we’re not in a rush to get you on solids (makes it way easier on momma since I have your food on tap AND don’t have to wash real-food diapers yet).

When do you eat and sleep?

During the day you eat every 3ish hours (I generally sit in the recliner, although I’ve had to nurse in the car, in a restroom, in a food court, etc), and at night you usually wake up once (between 3am and 6am) to eat as well.  You nap (if we are home) in your crib..usually 3-4 times a day.

What do your routines look like?

Eat, Play, Sleep (per BabyWise) is still what we are trying to follow.  A typical day looks like this:

  • Wake up around 6am and eat and go right back to sleep
  • Wake up around 9am and eat.  Play on the floor/in the bouncy seat til around 10:30 or 11 and then take a 1-1.5 hour nap
  • Wake up at noon and eat.  Run errands/take a walk/back in the bouncer til around 2, then a nap for an hour
  • Wake up at 3 and eat…then more play time and another 30-45 minute nap
  • Wake up at 6 and eat.  Then we hang with daddy…take a bath…maybe a walk if we didn’t earlier (mommy is trying to get some exercise, obviously)…read some books, etc.  Little catnap after this until you wake up
  • Last feeding of the day is around 9pm…then straight back to bed.  Finley sometimes wakes up around 12 or 1 (if she didn’t eat well or has gas or something) to eat again, then straight back to sleep

This schedule isn’t terrible for her age AT ALL, but if you have her 24/7 and are also trying to work it’s exhausting.

 What size clothes and diapers are you wearing?

Onesies and shirts and dresses are all 3 months or 3-6 months, but pants (because of her cloth diaper ghetto-booty) and one piece outfits with legs on them (because of her height) have to be 6 months.  I actually REALLY need to go through her closet this weekend and pack up all of the ‘too small’ stuff that is still in there (kinda makes me sad).  As for diapers, all of the cloth diapers we have are one size (fit from now until she’s out of diapers since they adjust).  If she needs a disposable on, she’s in a 2.

What are some things you love?

You love to stand up ALL.THE.TIME.  You love to bounce in your little bouncy chair/jumper thing (video on instagram if you are interested).  You love to grab stuff and put it directly into your mouth as far as you can.  You love to be man-handled and scared so that you laugh.  You love to roll from your belly to your back.  You love screens (phones/tvs/etc).  You love being outside (as long as you are not hot).  You love our dogs.  You love your lovies.  You love attention.

What are some things you don’t love?

You HATE diaper changes in the middle of the night.  You hate waiting on mommy to feed you once you decide you are hungry.  You don’t enjoy being held like a baby/cuddled unless you are really tired and ready to sleep.  You don’t like getting to your belly and not being able to flip over right away (sometimes you forget how to flip back over).  You hate getting out of the bathtub.  And you hate getting hot (like your parents).  TEETHING.  OMG we are in the midst of it….you are drooling non-stop….chewing on anything/everything…crabby…and restless.  Can’t wait for those teethers to pop through!

What can you do?

You have really progressed a lot this month.  You started rolling from belly to back at 8 weeks, and at 15 you started rolling from your back to your belly.  You are so proud of yourself!  As soon as you are put down on your back you flip over…it’s so funny.  You are so strong it’s ridiculous!  You are already trying to crawl and get your butt up in the air like you are going somewhere.  It’s comical.  You are really good at grabbing things now (and putting them right into your mouth), although sometimes I wish you were not (like when you get my hair or daddy’s beard).  You can converse if you are in the mood for it…we’ve talked back and forth for several minutes several different times…it’s so fun!

Who has visited and watched you?

We don’t really get many visitors, but we’ve done some visiting (you did meet your great Aunt/cousins in TX)….and only mom and dad have been watching you.

What are we looking forward to in the next month?

June looks to be a pretty busy month. Besides the normal craziness of the week that we currently have, we also have an open house coming up….our 8 year anniversary…a weekend with some friends…Father’s Day…a trip to Russellville to see Gran and Pops….it’ll be a good one!

Fin 4 month grinFin 4 month chewing on dogFinley 4 months smiles and pulling dress Fin on diaper changing pad

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Days 22-26 of Thankfulness

I haven’t felt very thankful over the past few days.  I thought this blog game would be easy, but with traveling for work, holidays and a BFN from my IUI, it’s almost too much.  I do, however, like to finish things that I start.

Day 22- I’m thankful for my friend Rebecca for a plethora of reasons, but here are a few:

  • She’s a rockstar at work, yet she’s not arrogant or demeaning to those around her.  I met her while working for the same company as her….and it’s because of her I have my current job!
  • We don’t live close to each other, but she’s always willing to plan a trip and drive over 5 hours to come see me for the weekend…and it’s a painful drive for sure….
  • She’s a beautiful, petite gal, yet she can drink more beers in one sitting than most guys I know (and maintain, I should add)…
  • She has always accepted me for who I am, even in the areas of our lives where we are very different (I WILL add that we have a LOT in common, though)
  • She has always been honest with me and I can always call her and ask her opinion and get good, solid feedback.  I love you, Becks!!

Day 23-On this day I am thankful for Paul and Martha Bergant!  I’ll limit myself to just three reasons:

  • Starting in Jr. High, I became best friends with their daughter, Farris.  Almost immediately, I began staying at the Bergant household MOST nights out of the week.  Seriously…I probably stayed at least 4 nights a week at their house and they never once made me feel weird about it or said I couldn’t/etc.  They were always welcoming and kind to me
  • On more than one occasion, Paul and Martha helped me out financially.  When I was in high school, my POS car broke down and I didn’t have funds to fix it.  I borrowed money from Martha (I think $1k or so) and paid her back monthly over the next year or so.  When I graduated, Martha got me a beautiful necklace like Farris’s that I had wanted and never even asked for (my parents didn’t even get me anything)!  When I got married, Martha bought my wedding dress as a wedding present (I was so excited and am still so thankful).  When my teeth straighten out from braces and I had to have jaw surgery, Paul and Martha AGAIN loaned me money and let me take my time paying them back.  It’s not the money I’m thankful for…it’s the giving nature they both have….the nonjudgement when I couldn’t manage on my own….the willingness to trust me to pay them back….just overall kindness and generosity.  I’ll never truly pay them back all they mean to me….but I will pass it on through others for sure!!
  • Even though Paul and Martha are pillars in our community and would have tons of tailgating options open to them every home game, they purchase a spot in the pit and host many of their ‘adopted kids’ for every game.  I like to think that we keep them young in some aspects…they are just too cool.  Love them.

Day 24- on this day I was thankful for good recipes.  I am not a great cook, but I can usually follow an easy recipe and have it turn out ok.  On this day, Rebecca and I (mainly Rebecca) made this white chicken chili that is just to die for!  It’s truly delicious- has chicken/beans/sausage/cheese/corn/cream o mushroom soup/chicken broth/onion/cumin in it…and probably more, I just can’t remember.  Anyway, I had it Saturday and am already making it again tonight  cause it sounds so good!  Without a recipe I would be completely lost.  Seriously.


Day 25-  I had a bad day this day.  I was thankful for mimosas.


Day 26-  On this Monday, I was thankful for 5pm to arrive so that I could quit working without worrying about something popping up.  It was a bad day….Aunt Flow showed up (after a second negative PT)…I had to play catch-up from work….I realized that I might not be able to go to Dallas later on this month due to timing issues with TTC….a deal I was working on with work became messy…just one thing after another.  I was happy to get home.


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O is for Orthognathic Surgery

Oh man, just typing that title takes me back and gives me the heeby-jeebes!  For those who may not know, I went through orthognathic surgery in December of 2008.  It has been a long journey…so let me start at the beginning:

I had ALWAYS had very crooked teeth.  VERY, VERY bad teeth!  I was self-conscious of them, and I would always keep my lips closed when I smiled because I was embarrassed by them.  I wanted braces from the age of 10, by my family could never afford them for me so I just had to suck it up.  I had planned to get them after I graduated from college, but then I ended up going to grad school…and then got married/went on a honeymoon (which my husband and I paid for both ourselves)…and needless to say the money just wasn’t there.  About a year after we got married I had saved up about $5k and was ready to do it.  I wasn’t excited about having braces as an adult, but I was ready to be 100% confident….and for that I needed to fix my teeth.

My appointment with the dentist was very disheartening…..I even cried during the consultation.  Not because of the cost of braces or fear of getting them, but because the orthodontist (Dr. Smith in Rogers- he’s great) told me that I could get braces, but that as my teeth straightened out I would discover that I had a severe underbite.  An underbite that…if straighted out…would not allow me to chew properly or maintain a bite.  An underbite that could only be fixed with one thing- orthognathic surgery.  I didn’t know what exactly that was at the time, but I knew it scared me and I knew the $5k I had saved up wasn’t going to cover it.  =(

Long story short, after much consideration I decided to go ahead and move forward.  I knew it’d be a long, expensive journey, but I also knew if I was going to be speaking to groups of a thousand people…and working with buyers weekly…and becoming the woman I always thought I would be, I couldn’t have something as silly as crooked teeth messing with my mojo.  So I did it.

After about a year of having braces, it became obvious that Dr. Smith was correct- I had a severe underbite (people sometimes call it the ‘bull dog’ bite).  With my teeth completely closed, I could stick a finger in between the back of my bottom teeth and the front of my top teeth.  It was bad.  This is when I went in for surgery.  What exactly happens during orthognathic surgery?  Well, it is different for each person based on your face and how far off your jaws/teeth, but for me, this meant the following:  having my top gums completely pulled back and then having my top jaw SAWED OFF MY FACE and reattached a few millimeters further out.  Then, my bottom gums were taken back and pieces of my actual jaw bone were removed  and the whole thing was pushed back and reattached.  I have brackets and screws and who knows what else in my face at this very moment.  LOL.  It sounds terrible, doesn’t it?  I still can’t believe that I went through it.  But I did.

My surgeon was Dr. Lewis in Rogers (actually an old RHS classmate’s dad), and he was phenomenal.  I remember a few thing about the before/after of the surgery.  I remember freaking out about 20 minutes before surgery when I realized exactly what my body was about to go through and how tough the recovery would be.  I was crying in the back room, terrified.  Then I remember laying in the chair, getting my ‘happy drugs,’ and telling the doctor’s that they were wearing silly hats.  Then I remember waking up and not feeling my face and not being able to move any of it…and I had to pee soooo bad.  I had to have the nurses unhook me as fast as they could so I didn’t pee my pants, but I couldn’t talk to tell them so I’m moaning and what-not.

The recovery was long and rough, but I could go on and on for days about the whole thing.  I actually made a blog JUST about this surgery/etc as I was going through it because when I was researching it and thinking about doing it I couldn’t find much online about it.  The link is here if you are interested:  http://jenhott.blogspot.com/

So yeah…that’s that. I’m glad I did it, but I’m more glad that I don’t have to do it again.  =)  Here are a few pictures to document the entire process from before braces to now (please note that these are totally embarrassing, but this blog is about sharing and being honest…so you can see me at my worst I suppose):

Before Braces:

Initially with Braces:

After about a year of braces- day prior to surgery:

Night of surgery:

Two days after (worst day ever):

6 weeks after:

Final pics:

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